Life is like a box of chocolates…or a surfboard.

Often times when we find things don’t go the way we want them to, we blame outside sources. “It’s their fault” “traffic was bad” “they didn’t help me” “the weather was bad” – but the truth of the matter is – you are 100% in control of your destiny. Compare it to surfing. You have to stand on the surfboard just right or you’ll topple over into the water. You’ve also gotta keep your eyes peeled for just the right wave to be forming; if you’re not paying attention, you’ll miss the perfect opportunity heading your way, only to see it go by when someone else makes that beautiful ride in. It’s not the ocean’s fault if you fall – you never hear a surfer blame the water – they didn’t catch the right wave, or didn’t plant their feet firmly on their board.

So next time you miss the right wave, or fall off your board, don’t blame the universe – take responsibility, figure out what you could have done differently, and get back up and try again.

I’ve never been surfing, but I can only imagine the feeling of getting it just right…



Badass chicks should be more trendy than the treadmill

There’s no reason every female out there shouldn’t be conditioned to not panic in a life or death situation and every female should know how to – at a minimum – know how to throw a punch.


I used to love Lifetime Movies. They’re hard to watch since I started Krav Maga cause none of these women know how to fight and can’t defend themselves or their families. Such a shame. We need more movies with everyday women having badass self defense skills so that knowing how to defend yourself will be just as trendy as the treadmill.


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Badass chicks should be more trendy than the treadmill

I used to love Lifetime Movies. They’re hard to watch since I started Krav Maga cause none of these women know how to fight and can’t defend themselves or their families. Such a shame. We need more movies with everyday women having badass self defense skills so that knowing how to defend yourself will be just as trendy as the treadmill.


I call bs on the Universe

So if you have read any of my other posts, you would realized that I typically write positive and motivational blogs. I believe in the law of attraction and the power of positive thought. I think we all have complete control of our destiny and I believe in a higher being.

But today I call bullshit on the Universe. Life in general is exhausting- being happy all the time is even more exhausting! Always searching for the positive despite the circumstances, always shoving aside the stress, frustration and anger to make room for the happiness, positive thoughts and smiles – that all takes soooo much energy all of the time.

Then when you have one of the those days when nothing seems to be going your way and things go from bad to worse (because your thoughts turn negative and you begin to draw more negative energy towards you) those days, when you are really searching for the positive energy, so you can turn your day around.

Or you have a series of those days. Or the Universe decides you need a lesson in patience and none of your positive thoughts, workings or energies seem to be accomplishing anything.

Well I have had a few of those days lately, so I call bullshit on the Universe. I am tired. I don’t feel like mustering up the energy to be happy. I don’t feel like finding the energy to pretend everything hasn’t been chaotic in life. I don’t have any desire to ignore the little things and move on. I’m out of energy, none left to apply. None left to try.

Am I still aware of the fact that I have a lot to be thankful for? Yes. Am I still aware that things could always be worse? Yes.

But you know what, today I want to be tired. Today I want to let out that anger because I don’t have the energy to find the energy to be happy.

And thats ok. It’s ok to call bullshit on the Universe sometimes.

Because hopefully I can try again tomorrow.


A very graphic reason why you should know self-defense….

I run a Krav Maga studio in Austin, TX and I love what I do because I have the ability to help save a life every day. What is Krav Maga? In lament terms, it is self-defense for the streets. There is absolutely no reason you should not know how to defend yourself, because the unfortunate truth of the matter is – you can not rely on others. Below is a video that I was only able to watch 5 secs of and I had to turn it off. It sickens me that our society has come to the point where people will stand by and let things happen instead of intervening. I blame a lot of on this on the fact that people are afraid and untrained. DONT BE AFRAID AND UNTRAINED. LEARN TO DEFEND YOURSELF AND OTHERS.

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The Gift of a Brick

A young and successful executive was driving his new Jaguar down a street in a not so good neighborhood. Very proud of his new car, he drove carefully, watching for kids and incoming traffic. But this street seemed to be deserted.

As he passed a series of derelict cars parked on the other side of the street, he though he saw a kid and heard an odd bang. He slammed on the brakes and got out to see what it was. His car’s door had been hit by a brick! He backed the Jaguar to the spot where he thought the brick had been thrown.

The angry driver saw a young boy with big brown, worried eyes, starring at him. He got out, grabbed the kid by the arm and pulled him towards his car, while shouting “See what you did? That is a new car. Are you going to pay for it?”

With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the young boy told him he was sorry but it was the only way. The boy pointed to a spot just around a parked car.

“Please Mister, please, I’m sorry but I didn’t know what else to do,” he pleaded.” I threw the brick because no one else would stop. It’s my brother,” he said. “He rolled off the curb and fell out off his wheelchair and I can’t lift him up.”

The driver by now was more confused than angry.

Sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive,

“Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He’s hurt and he’s too heavy for me to lift.”

Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He gently lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out his linen handkerchief and cleaned the boy’s scrapes and cuts. A quick second look told him everything was going to be okay.

“Thank you and may God bless you, Mister,” the grateful child told the stranger.

Almost in shock, the man simply watched the boy push his brother’s wheelchair down the sidewalk toward their home.

It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but right there, the driver decided not to repair the dented, side door. He would keep that damage to remind him of the message he saw in this act: “Don’t go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!”
God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don’t have time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us.

It’s our choice to listen or not.

God didn’t promise us days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.

I hope you’ll let this thought sink in… If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

Have a great journey.

Story shared by Ton Pascal

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Do you allow fear to control you?

I spoke with a very good friend of mine yesterday. She’s young and in her 20s, in a miserable relationship and working 3 jobs. She’s been living like this for over 2 years – I just don’t get it. I try to plead with her to stop living such an unpleasant life but she is consumed with fear that she can’t financially support herself if she moves out. She fears instability if she stops working every hour of everyday like she is now.

If nothing else, I want to instill in each and every person I meet that you have to have faith. Faith that the Universe, that God, whatever you want to call WILL ABSOLUTELY, 100% take care of you. Visualize where you want to be, believe that you can get there and take the leap. STOP STOP STOP wasting your life away – you only have a short time to learn, live and love. Don’t waste it away working a job you don’t enjoy and then going home to a toxic environment. Each and everyone of you can and should be surrounded by only happiness, joy and love.

I literally fell asleep with a smile on my face and woke up with one this morning because I have chosen a life where I am constantly surrounded only by people and animals who love me unconditionally. “But not everyone can find that kind of love” you say? I call bullshit. I’m not “lucky” I sent and still send out that love everyday and the universe has returned that energy to me.

If you want happiness- be happy.
If you want to be loved – love.

It really is that simple, all you have to do is believe….


I’d rather be poor

Poor is a relative term.

It’s ironic really, what society has turned into.

Have you ever been to a low income community. Everyone is always outside. Adults are listening to music, barbecuing and watching the kids play at the park. Kids are outside with other kids and bikes and dogs – not inside glued to their flat screens and ps3s.

Then you go to the middle and upper class neighborhoods. Occasionally you’ll find someone outside washing their car, but no community BBQs, no kids riding their bikes. Maybe an occasional house mom running with the kids in the stroller.

These aren’t stereotypes people – this is the reality of the world we live in, don’t believe me? Go check out these neighborhoods for yourself. I dare you, go above and beyond just looking around. Trying stopping by and joining either one of those communities – assuming you can find anyone in the upper class neighborhoods to talk to.

Where do you think you’ll be more

I live in a middle class neighborhood and I’ve seen maybe 3 kids out on their bikes since I moved here 6 months ago. Do I want to be social and get to know my neighbors? Absolutely! We are meant to help each other survive, to learn, to grow together – yet we hide from each other.

When did society take this turn for the worst? And how do we get back to our true nature of love and selflessness?

My only suggestion is one step at a time. One day at a time. One smile at a time. One hug at a time.

You could even start with something as simple as “Hello”


I’ve got a secret….

Love, love, love that website. Though I normally end up in tears 2 secs after I start reading.

For those of you who don’t know, is

“… an ongoing community mail art project, created by Frank Warren, in which people mail their secrets anonymously on a homemade postcard. Select secrets are then posted on the PostSecret website, or used for PostSecret’s books or museum exhibits.” – Wikipedea

I love that website for a few reasons, and it makes me cry for a few reasons. It’s so refreshing to hear the truth from people. The completely uninhibited truth. I cry tears of joy when I see postcards like this:

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And I just plain cry when I see cards like this:

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People amaze me with the good they do….


and with the evil that is inside of more then I want to believe….


The truth is, we all have secrets, we are conditioned to want to have secrets, and driven by society to keep them. But secrets can cause major health issues, physical and psychological.  If you are keeping a secret because you have no one to tell, now you do! Send a postcard to the people – tell me anonymously, tell anyone anonymously, regardless, rid your self of the cancer so your spirit can continue to grow.

“I thought about how there are two types of secrets: the kind you want to keep in, and the kind you don’t dare to let out.” – Ally Carter

Don’t let fear control you – it is an inanimate object, it’s like trying to hold on to the wind, that doesn’t make any sense…

Here’s your chance to be on a reality show! On Mars?

Mars One will start accepting applications this July for anyone 18 or older who wants a one way ticket to Mars to star in a reality show!

Would you do it?

Mars one recruiting volunteers in July one way trip to the red planet