Going with the flow of life

“When you catch yourself slipping into a pool of negativity, notice how it derives from nothing other than resistance to the current situation.”
– Donna Quesada

Accept everything as it is. Know that everything is impermanent, good and bad. Each moment does not build on the previous moment but exists in and of itself and will whether you are stuck in the past or focused on the future. Enjoy each of those moments, they are gifts.

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This quote blew my mind and forever changed my life

“Zen is liberation from time. For if we open our eyes and see clearly, it becomes obvious that there is no other time than this instant, and that the past and the future are abstractions without any concrete reality.” – Alan Wilson Watts

All we truly have is this very moment, everything else is simply a thought which is only as concrete as you allow that thought to be. While we are in the habit of making thoughts so permanent…try using your thoughts to create your future, rather than stagnant remnants of the past…

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If it’s really that bad then you better be planning your funeral arrangements

“…the only unsolvable problem is death….No problems are bigger than life; they are all a part of life, and as long as we are living and breathing, we can find a way to overcome any challenge.” – Fran Tarkenton

I was just talking to My husband about this the other night. If you look back at your entire life EVERY SINGLE PROBLEM has worked itself out in the end. Yet we STILL get all upset about things and act like the world is going to end. Problems always work themselves out. ALWAYS. And the time that they don’t and the world does end. Well, you’ll be dead anyway. Fear is almost always worse then what it is you are fearing.

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The “not so secret” Secret

I’ve been absent in my writing lately. Mostly because we’ve had so much going on. Moving to Hawaii to chase your dreams, is all fine, beautiful, amazing and dandy. But it sure is exhausting! Needless to say, it’s been a growing experience to say the least. Anyway, since I haven’t been around to write lately, I wanted to share a fellow blogger’s post. It is beautifully written! I mean, come on guys, this stuff just makes sense. Life is short. You’ve gotta do what you love. Be happy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s only cliche because year after year people have been saying the same things over and over. WAKE UP AND LISTEN! The answers are right in front of you. It’s like the everyone is wearing drunk goggles. If we all just calmed the waters and paid attention, the truth, the way and light to true happiness are glaringly obvious.

The Better Man Project ™

It’s not about catching up with the world, it’s about creating a life full of love and passion and having the world catch up with you. The times of having to mold ourselves into someone or something we aren’t are long gone – in fact, this may be one of the greatest lies of humanity. The belief that you have to fit in to lead a worthwhile life is a facade that shades your eyes from the truth. In many cases, it may feel that you have to be the cool person in order to gain the respect and appreciation of others, but let me tell you from personal experience – if you go out into the world, declare your purpose, and do something really ridiculously cool with your life, people will take notice and give you real respect. Respect for doing what you love and bring new ideas into…

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Life as a control freak, and learning to let go

I am a control freak. Ill admit it. Most of the time I feel like that’s the only way anything is going to get done and get done right, if I just do it myself.

So these past few weeks have been anything but easy on me. In case you don’t know, I quit my job to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga school. I’ve never been to Hawaii, which really is like a foreign country, btw. I don’t know the ways of land, I don’t know anyone here, and I have lost control of just about everything.

I have no idea when my next pay check will exist. I can not control how quickly my building is renovated (since I can’t do it myself and I’m forced to rely on other people.) I can’t control how quickly items are shipped to me, because its Hawaii and everything takes forever to get here. I can’t control the fact that no one here emails back and it takes a week for anyone to return a phone call. (They call that island time)
And I have no control over getting my puppies out of quarantine – and they’re my therapy dogs! So needless to say, I’ve been kind of freaking out.

I know all the “right” answers on how to deal with the stress, but it’s all so much easier said than done. In Buddhism you are taught to just experience the “here and now” and be happy and content right where you are. Enjoy each moment and know that the future will take care of it self and the past is in the past.

But man, I sure am preconditioned to worry!

I know that I am so blessed, and that a package getting here late or someone not calling me back is not the end of the world.

Each night I watch the sunset, knowing that no matter what happened in my day, that beauty will always be there. Do you think the ocean cares whether my walls are painted, or if the kitchen is clean? Not a chance.

A friend said yesterday “I was in control of everything up until 4 years ago, I controlled when my bills were paid, I controlled my household, I was in control of my marriage, my kids, my job – or so I thought. Turns out, it controlled me.”

And so she too is now learning to let the world be as it is going to be.

Have faith.

And trust that the world will not end if we’re not in charge.

Breathe. Jessica. Breathe.

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Don’t worry, be happy : )

The only thing that matters is what is happening right at this very moment.

I say that a lot but I don’t think it ever resonated the way it did just now.

As long as I am genuinely making the most out of every single moment, I will have made the most out of life.

I waste too many moments worrying about the future, and then the future comes and everything works out just fine. And I wasted so many moments worrying.

When will I learn.

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Are you a doer?

Don’t be a talker. Be a doer.

I take that back – dont be JUST a talker, be a doer too!

Reasons it’s good to talk about your dreams:

1) People will hold you accountable “Didn’t you say you were gonna quit smoking?” “Didn’t you say you were gonna apply for that job?”

2) You gotta put it out to the Universe. Think about it, envision it, talk about it – all of those are actions that will become reality! Just don’t forget to go out and do something, you can look at pictures of paradise, wear your bathing suit and talk about the beach all day long, but until you buy a plane ticket you’re not gonna get there.
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Back to life, back to reality

For everyone who went to their “paradise” for Memorial Day weekend and who is now heading “back to reality” – I ask, why? If you would rather live in paradise than where you currently waste away your existence in a daily grind of traffic and 9-5’s – why not make the change?? Make paradise your new reality. (Here’s a secret – society says its not possible, but it is…)

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