Everything effects everything

In case anyone out there is wondering how I came to have such a positive outlook on life, I would like to say it didn’t come easy. I suffered from depression all my life. I tried the whole med/therapy thing and NOTHING had a lasting effect. But I got tired of being tired. So I stopped.

I stopped thinking negative thoughts.

I stopped saying negative things. 

I stopped having expectations. 

I started having faith that EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT. Because it ALWAYS does. If things didn’t work out, I would be dead. So if things always work out, why do I keep doubting that they won’t? 

I started seeing the positive in EVERYTHING. I started accepting everyone and everything for what they were. Accepting does not mean you are saying something is ok, it means you are giving up your expectations and the desire to control everything. Just because you accept something also does not mean you have to keep it around. Accept it for what it is and if it does not positively impact your life. Move on. 

You know the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it” – turns out that’s a good one! If what you are about to say (or type or txt) will not positively impact yourself or someone else, let that thought go just as quickly as it came. 

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Everything effects everything. So make sure that everything you do and say only has a positive effect on everything else.

The secret to being happy is love. The more you love others and create happiness is them, the more happiness you will find in yourself. 

I love you for you. Now let’s start being the amazing and beautiful souls we were meant to be. 

Today’s Assignment: LOVE

“When you judge you project your shadows onto others, when you love you project your light.” ~ Aine Belton

Your goal for the day: TO LOVE.

That’s it. Just love. Everyone and everything. Despite whether it meets your expectations or not.

I would love to hear end of the day results from anyone who accepts this challenge. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised with how your day goes….

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Expectations vs Acceptance

“The reality is that tomorrow is most certainly uncertain and no matter how many expectations we form, tomorrow will come, tomorrow will go and it will all be what it will be.” ~Lori Deschene

Our only true disappointments come when something does not meet our expectations. If you accept everyone and everything for it’s true-self, all that is left is love. 

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You create your reality

“Your reality is a reflection of what you believe you deserve.” 

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Hell ya it is. You can be anyone you want to be and you can have anything you want to have.

“It is not enough to know what you want, you must also know why you want it, and what you will do once you have it! All those elements impact the world around you and therefore must be considered.” ~ Kathleen McGowan

“Consciously or subconsciously, we hold ourselves to account. You cannot manifest something that is not in the best interest of the world around you. That would not be honoring your place as a member of the human family. God’s family. Yes, we may ask, but we receive as a reward for living in harmony.” Shared from Inspiring Quote Of The Day

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/your-reality-is-a-reflection-of-what-you-believe-you-deserve/

The “not so secret” Secret

I’ve been absent in my writing lately. Mostly because we’ve had so much going on. Moving to Hawaii to chase your dreams, is all fine, beautiful, amazing and dandy. But it sure is exhausting! Needless to say, it’s been a growing experience to say the least. Anyway, since I haven’t been around to write lately, I wanted to share a fellow blogger’s post. It is beautifully written! I mean, come on guys, this stuff just makes sense. Life is short. You’ve gotta do what you love. Be happy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s only cliche because year after year people have been saying the same things over and over. WAKE UP AND LISTEN! The answers are right in front of you. It’s like the everyone is wearing drunk goggles. If we all just calmed the waters and paid attention, the truth, the way and light to true happiness are glaringly obvious.

The Better Man Project ™

It’s not about catching up with the world, it’s about creating a life full of love and passion and having the world catch up with you. The times of having to mold ourselves into someone or something we aren’t are long gone – in fact, this may be one of the greatest lies of humanity. The belief that you have to fit in to lead a worthwhile life is a facade that shades your eyes from the truth. In many cases, it may feel that you have to be the cool person in order to gain the respect and appreciation of others, but let me tell you from personal experience – if you go out into the world, declare your purpose, and do something really ridiculously cool with your life, people will take notice and give you real respect. Respect for doing what you love and bring new ideas into…

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Life as a control freak, and learning to let go

I am a control freak. Ill admit it. Most of the time I feel like that’s the only way anything is going to get done and get done right, if I just do it myself.

So these past few weeks have been anything but easy on me. In case you don’t know, I quit my job to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga school. I’ve never been to Hawaii, which really is like a foreign country, btw. I don’t know the ways of land, I don’t know anyone here, and I have lost control of just about everything.

I have no idea when my next pay check will exist. I can not control how quickly my building is renovated (since I can’t do it myself and I’m forced to rely on other people.) I can’t control how quickly items are shipped to me, because its Hawaii and everything takes forever to get here. I can’t control the fact that no one here emails back and it takes a week for anyone to return a phone call. (They call that island time)
And I have no control over getting my puppies out of quarantine – and they’re my therapy dogs! So needless to say, I’ve been kind of freaking out.

I know all the “right” answers on how to deal with the stress, but it’s all so much easier said than done. In Buddhism you are taught to just experience the “here and now” and be happy and content right where you are. Enjoy each moment and know that the future will take care of it self and the past is in the past.

But man, I sure am preconditioned to worry!

I know that I am so blessed, and that a package getting here late or someone not calling me back is not the end of the world.

Each night I watch the sunset, knowing that no matter what happened in my day, that beauty will always be there. Do you think the ocean cares whether my walls are painted, or if the kitchen is clean? Not a chance.

A friend said yesterday “I was in control of everything up until 4 years ago, I controlled when my bills were paid, I controlled my household, I was in control of my marriage, my kids, my job – or so I thought. Turns out, it controlled me.”

And so she too is now learning to let the world be as it is going to be.

Have faith.

And trust that the world will not end if we’re not in charge.

Breathe. Jessica. Breathe.

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