Don’t Let Fear Control You

“Trust that still, small voice that says, this might work and I’ll try it
.” – Diane Mariechild

An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.


You have the power to control what you believe. Believe in yourself.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt


A very graphic reason why you should know self-defense….

I run a Krav Maga studio in Austin, TX and I love what I do because I have the ability to help save a life every day. What is Krav Maga? In lament terms, it is self-defense for the streets. There is absolutely no reason you should not know how to defend yourself, because the unfortunate truth of the matter is – you can not rely on others. Below is a video that I was only able to watch 5 secs of and I had to turn it off. It sickens me that our society has come to the point where people will stand by and let things happen instead of intervening. I blame a lot of on this on the fact that people are afraid and untrained. DONT BE AFRAID AND UNTRAINED. LEARN TO DEFEND YOURSELF AND OTHERS.

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Do you allow fear to control you?

I spoke with a very good friend of mine yesterday. She’s young and in her 20s, in a miserable relationship and working 3 jobs. She’s been living like this for over 2 years – I just don’t get it. I try to plead with her to stop living such an unpleasant life but she is consumed with fear that she can’t financially support herself if she moves out. She fears instability if she stops working every hour of everyday like she is now.

If nothing else, I want to instill in each and every person I meet that you have to have faith. Faith that the Universe, that God, whatever you want to call WILL ABSOLUTELY, 100% take care of you. Visualize where you want to be, believe that you can get there and take the leap. STOP STOP STOP wasting your life away – you only have a short time to learn, live and love. Don’t waste it away working a job you don’t enjoy and then going home to a toxic environment. Each and everyone of you can and should be surrounded by only happiness, joy and love.

I literally fell asleep with a smile on my face and woke up with one this morning because I have chosen a life where I am constantly surrounded only by people and animals who love me unconditionally. “But not everyone can find that kind of love” you say? I call bullshit. I’m not “lucky” I sent and still send out that love everyday and the universe has returned that energy to me.

If you want happiness- be happy.
If you want to be loved – love.

It really is that simple, all you have to do is believe….


No really, you only live once

“You only live once” said….hmmm…everyone. Sayings that we have come to know as “cliche” are cliche because we have heard them over and over and over again. But there’s a reason they keep being said!

You only have this one life to do EVERYTHING you want to do. One lifetime out of the millions of billions of years the universe has going for it. In case you haven’t caught on, that’s not very much time. Sure it may seem like F.O.R.E.V.E.R until you turn 21, or until your kids turn 18 and move out, but time just keeps on chugging along whether you choose to take advantage of it or not.

Do you hate your job? Do you want to live somewhere warmer? Somewhere cooler? Do you want to take up a new hobby but just haven’t “gotten around to it?”

JUST DO IT! It really is that easy. If I could, I would come see you personally, sit down and beg you to stop doing what you don’t want to do. Yes, change is scary, I get that. I have a great job (one that I love fortunately), I live in a city I think is amazing, and I just bought a house. I live paycheck to paycheck with just enough left over for a date night here and there. I don’t have much in savings, but I’m working on paying off my current debt. I have realized that, yes, I am “content” but I’m not where I want to be, and I’m not doing exactly what I want to be doing. So you know what I am going to do? Exactly what I want to.

I’m simplifying, getting rid of just about everything, putting my house up for lease and moving to Hawaii to teach people self-defense. Am I scared? A little. Am I going to let that stop me? Nope.

You are the only thing standing in your way. “I don’t have enough money” “My family is here” “I don’t know where to begin” all great excuses, but they are just that, excuses!

Have faith in the universe. As long as everything you do is done with good intentions, you CAN NOT go wrong. This may sound like a bunch of fluff to you, but have a little faith and follow your dreams. What’s the worse that can happen? Let’s see….you could

A) Keep living a mediocre life, not really ever getting to do what you want to do, not really making the difference you want to make, going to work every day at a job you don’t like, paying for things that don’t really fulfill your life


B) You can get rid of superficial things that you work your miserable job to keep, knowing that when you die you can’t bring those things with you anyway – and get the job you’ve always wanted; work part-time so you can live full-time; go where you want to go, live how you want to live.

I could end up completely broke and the business I want to start might fail, but you know what, who cares, I’ll work a small job at a grocery store, or I’ll clean houses, or I’ll be a nanny, or you know what, maybe I’ll even end up homeless. No matter what happens, at least I won’t die wondering “what if?” At least I won’t waste the life that was given to me being miserable because I was too afraid to give it my all.

Fear is an emotion that I control. The only thing standing in my way is me. The only thing standing in your way is you.

“Everyone will die, unfortunately, not everyone will live.” – unknown