The “not so secret” Secret

I’ve been absent in my writing lately. Mostly because we’ve had so much going on. Moving to Hawaii to chase your dreams, is all fine, beautiful, amazing and dandy. But it sure is exhausting! Needless to say, it’s been a growing experience to say the least. Anyway, since I haven’t been around to write lately, I wanted to share a fellow blogger’s post. It is beautifully written! I mean, come on guys, this stuff just makes sense. Life is short. You’ve gotta do what you love. Be happy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s only cliche because year after year people have been saying the same things over and over. WAKE UP AND LISTEN! The answers are right in front of you. It’s like the everyone is wearing drunk goggles. If we all just calmed the waters and paid attention, the truth, the way and light to true happiness are glaringly obvious.

The Better Man Project ™

It’s not about catching up with the world, it’s about creating a life full of love and passion and having the world catch up with you. The times of having to mold ourselves into someone or something we aren’t are long gone – in fact, this may be one of the greatest lies of humanity. The belief that you have to fit in to lead a worthwhile life is a facade that shades your eyes from the truth. In many cases, it may feel that you have to be the cool person in order to gain the respect and appreciation of others, but let me tell you from personal experience – if you go out into the world, declare your purpose, and do something really ridiculously cool with your life, people will take notice and give you real respect. Respect for doing what you love and bring new ideas into…

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Have a little faith

I’ve been absent for a few days because life has just been one chaotic mess. If you don’t know, my husband and I are selling all of our things, leaving our jobs, friends and the city of Austin that we love dearly, to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga/CrossFit studio. Long story short  – Krav Maga and CrossFit are our passion and we can’t wait to change the world through through fitness and self-defense! www.alohakravmaga.com

ANYWAY….

I have been absent because moving to an island in the middle of no where, trying to get a loan to start a business and figuring out how to ship our FIVE dogs over there, along with working my full time job still, has been very time consuming. And to top all of that – the Universe has been pushing me to my limits. Not a single thing has gone right in the last week. Nothing can just work the way its supposed to, it seems like everyone I interact with is incompetent in their jobs or someone didn’t pay attention to details, which leaves me completely screwed.

Needless to say, I am exhausted and have broken down many times over the last few days – all the while questioning why the universe has to make everything so freaking difficult! Why can’t anything work the way I want it to.

When I take a moment to step back and look at how things are working out –  I realize that the power of the mind really does work, I am still achieving what I have put out to the Universe, just not the way I thought I would.

The only time we are dissapointed in someone or something is when they do not meet our expectations.

If we accept people for who they are, and not who we want them to be, we would not have to go through the initial phase of dissapointment, only to later find out – they were perfect just the way they are – if we could have only accepted them that way in the first place.

And another thing…

Everything really does happen for a reason. Think back to a time something went wrong and you wondered, why you?

My boyfriend cheated on me two years ago, I was devastated. How could anyone treat someone that way?? But it also happened to be the first time I was single since I was 13 and I also just happened to be going on a cruise the following week. The same cruise that I met my husband on….

My point is, I have wasted a lot of energy being upset with the Universe this week (and this life), just to find out that it is working with me, not against me.

Keep your eyes on the prize, do everything with good intentions and hold tight to your faith, the Universe is listening…

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Do you allow fear to control you?

I spoke with a very good friend of mine yesterday. She’s young and in her 20s, in a miserable relationship and working 3 jobs. She’s been living like this for over 2 years – I just don’t get it. I try to plead with her to stop living such an unpleasant life but she is consumed with fear that she can’t financially support herself if she moves out. She fears instability if she stops working every hour of everyday like she is now.

If nothing else, I want to instill in each and every person I meet that you have to have faith. Faith that the Universe, that God, whatever you want to call WILL ABSOLUTELY, 100% take care of you. Visualize where you want to be, believe that you can get there and take the leap. STOP STOP STOP wasting your life away – you only have a short time to learn, live and love. Don’t waste it away working a job you don’t enjoy and then going home to a toxic environment. Each and everyone of you can and should be surrounded by only happiness, joy and love.

I literally fell asleep with a smile on my face and woke up with one this morning because I have chosen a life where I am constantly surrounded only by people and animals who love me unconditionally. “But not everyone can find that kind of love” you say? I call bullshit. I’m not “lucky” I sent and still send out that love everyday and the universe has returned that energy to me.

If you want happiness- be happy.
If you want to be loved – love.

It really is that simple, all you have to do is believe….

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I’d rather be poor

Poor is a relative term.

It’s ironic really, what society has turned into.

Have you ever been to a low income community. Everyone is always outside. Adults are listening to music, barbecuing and watching the kids play at the park. Kids are outside with other kids and bikes and dogs – not inside glued to their flat screens and ps3s.

Then you go to the middle and upper class neighborhoods. Occasionally you’ll find someone outside washing their car, but no community BBQs, no kids riding their bikes. Maybe an occasional house mom running with the kids in the stroller.

These aren’t stereotypes people – this is the reality of the world we live in, don’t believe me? Go check out these neighborhoods for yourself. I dare you, go above and beyond just looking around. Trying stopping by and joining either one of those communities – assuming you can find anyone in the upper class neighborhoods to talk to.

Where do you think you’ll be more
welcome?

I live in a middle class neighborhood and I’ve seen maybe 3 kids out on their bikes since I moved here 6 months ago. Do I want to be social and get to know my neighbors? Absolutely! We are meant to help each other survive, to learn, to grow together – yet we hide from each other.

When did society take this turn for the worst? And how do we get back to our true nature of love and selflessness?

My only suggestion is one step at a time. One day at a time. One smile at a time. One hug at a time.

You could even start with something as simple as “Hello”

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Have we found life on other planets?

“In the midst of chaos here on Earth, Scientists are finding hope for life on other planets.”

If there is life on other planets, do you think their world is as corrupt as we have managed to make ours?

A part of me hopes we never find other life forms, so that there is no chance that we bring them down with us…

Though if we find other INTELLIGENT life forms- it would be life changing to hear their beliefs on creation and a higher being…

3 new planets found that could host life

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The Opposite of What You Know is also True

A big struggle of mine at this time is learning to love people I don’t necessarily like. I wanted to share a quick excerpt from the book Buddhist Boot Camp. The next time you feel you need to prove you are right, or start to get frustrated that someone else doesn’t see things your way, take a moment to come back to this.

The Opposite of What You Know Is Also True


“You don’t have to agree with, only learn to personally live with, other people’s freedom of choice. This includes (but is not limited to) political views, religious beliefs, dietary restrictions, matters of the heart, career paths and mental afflictions.

Our opinions and beliefs tend to change depending on time, place and circumstance, and since we all experience life differently, there are multiple theories on what’s best, what’s moral, what’s right and what’s wrong.

It is important to remember that other people’s perspective on reality is as valid as your own. This is why the first principle of Buddhist Boot Camp is that the opposite if what you know is also true.

No matter how certain we are of our version of the truth, we must humbly accept the possibility that someone who believes the exact opposite could also be right (according to their time, place and circumstance). This is the key to forgiveness, patience and understanding.

That said, tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful. Oftentimes the lesson we are to learn is when to say “no” the right time to walk away and when to remove ourselves from the very cause of anguish. After all, we are the ones who create the environment we live in.

While staying with different host families around the world over the last years, I noticed that people’s definition of everyday words like “comfortable” and “clean” we’re often very different then my own. The opposite of what I considered true proved to be just as true for others, which was very humbling.

If two people can have very different definitions of what “walking distance” means, imagine bigger words like “right” “wrong” “God” and “love”.

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly. – Richard Bach