The “not so secret” Secret

I’ve been absent in my writing lately. Mostly because we’ve had so much going on. Moving to Hawaii to chase your dreams, is all fine, beautiful, amazing and dandy. But it sure is exhausting! Needless to say, it’s been a growing experience to say the least. Anyway, since I haven’t been around to write lately, I wanted to share a fellow blogger’s post. It is beautifully written! I mean, come on guys, this stuff just makes sense. Life is short. You’ve gotta do what you love. Be happy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s only cliche because year after year people have been saying the same things over and over. WAKE UP AND LISTEN! The answers are right in front of you. It’s like the everyone is wearing drunk goggles. If we all just calmed the waters and paid attention, the truth, the way and light to true happiness are glaringly obvious.

The Better Man Project ™

It’s not about catching up with the world, it’s about creating a life full of love and passion and having the world catch up with you. The times of having to mold ourselves into someone or something we aren’t are long gone – in fact, this may be one of the greatest lies of humanity. The belief that you have to fit in to lead a worthwhile life is a facade that shades your eyes from the truth. In many cases, it may feel that you have to be the cool person in order to gain the respect and appreciation of others, but let me tell you from personal experience – if you go out into the world, declare your purpose, and do something really ridiculously cool with your life, people will take notice and give you real respect. Respect for doing what you love and bring new ideas into…

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Life as a control freak, and learning to let go

I am a control freak. Ill admit it. Most of the time I feel like that’s the only way anything is going to get done and get done right, if I just do it myself.

So these past few weeks have been anything but easy on me. In case you don’t know, I quit my job to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga school. I’ve never been to Hawaii, which really is like a foreign country, btw. I don’t know the ways of land, I don’t know anyone here, and I have lost control of just about everything.

I have no idea when my next pay check will exist. I can not control how quickly my building is renovated (since I can’t do it myself and I’m forced to rely on other people.) I can’t control how quickly items are shipped to me, because its Hawaii and everything takes forever to get here. I can’t control the fact that no one here emails back and it takes a week for anyone to return a phone call. (They call that island time)
And I have no control over getting my puppies out of quarantine – and they’re my therapy dogs! So needless to say, I’ve been kind of freaking out.

I know all the “right” answers on how to deal with the stress, but it’s all so much easier said than done. In Buddhism you are taught to just experience the “here and now” and be happy and content right where you are. Enjoy each moment and know that the future will take care of it self and the past is in the past.

But man, I sure am preconditioned to worry!

I know that I am so blessed, and that a package getting here late or someone not calling me back is not the end of the world.

Each night I watch the sunset, knowing that no matter what happened in my day, that beauty will always be there. Do you think the ocean cares whether my walls are painted, or if the kitchen is clean? Not a chance.

A friend said yesterday “I was in control of everything up until 4 years ago, I controlled when my bills were paid, I controlled my household, I was in control of my marriage, my kids, my job – or so I thought. Turns out, it controlled me.”

And so she too is now learning to let the world be as it is going to be.

Have faith.

And trust that the world will not end if we’re not in charge.

Breathe. Jessica. Breathe.

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Back to life, back to reality

For everyone who went to their “paradise” for Memorial Day weekend and who is now heading “back to reality” – I ask, why? If you would rather live in paradise than where you currently waste away your existence in a daily grind of traffic and 9-5’s – why not make the change?? Make paradise your new reality. (Here’s a secret – society says its not possible, but it is…)

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Have a little faith

I’ve been absent for a few days because life has just been one chaotic mess. If you don’t know, my husband and I are selling all of our things, leaving our jobs, friends and the city of Austin that we love dearly, to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga/CrossFit studio. Long story short  – Krav Maga and CrossFit are our passion and we can’t wait to change the world through through fitness and self-defense! www.alohakravmaga.com

ANYWAY….

I have been absent because moving to an island in the middle of no where, trying to get a loan to start a business and figuring out how to ship our FIVE dogs over there, along with working my full time job still, has been very time consuming. And to top all of that – the Universe has been pushing me to my limits. Not a single thing has gone right in the last week. Nothing can just work the way its supposed to, it seems like everyone I interact with is incompetent in their jobs or someone didn’t pay attention to details, which leaves me completely screwed.

Needless to say, I am exhausted and have broken down many times over the last few days – all the while questioning why the universe has to make everything so freaking difficult! Why can’t anything work the way I want it to.

When I take a moment to step back and look at how things are working out –  I realize that the power of the mind really does work, I am still achieving what I have put out to the Universe, just not the way I thought I would.

The only time we are dissapointed in someone or something is when they do not meet our expectations.

If we accept people for who they are, and not who we want them to be, we would not have to go through the initial phase of dissapointment, only to later find out – they were perfect just the way they are – if we could have only accepted them that way in the first place.

And another thing…

Everything really does happen for a reason. Think back to a time something went wrong and you wondered, why you?

My boyfriend cheated on me two years ago, I was devastated. How could anyone treat someone that way?? But it also happened to be the first time I was single since I was 13 and I also just happened to be going on a cruise the following week. The same cruise that I met my husband on….

My point is, I have wasted a lot of energy being upset with the Universe this week (and this life), just to find out that it is working with me, not against me.

Keep your eyes on the prize, do everything with good intentions and hold tight to your faith, the Universe is listening…

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Life is like a box of chocolates…or a surfboard.

Often times when we find things don’t go the way we want them to, we blame outside sources. “It’s their fault” “traffic was bad” “they didn’t help me” “the weather was bad” – but the truth of the matter is – you are 100% in control of your destiny. Compare it to surfing. You have to stand on the surfboard just right or you’ll topple over into the water. You’ve also gotta keep your eyes peeled for just the right wave to be forming; if you’re not paying attention, you’ll miss the perfect opportunity heading your way, only to see it go by when someone else makes that beautiful ride in. It’s not the ocean’s fault if you fall – you never hear a surfer blame the water – they didn’t catch the right wave, or didn’t plant their feet firmly on their board.

So next time you miss the right wave, or fall off your board, don’t blame the universe – take responsibility, figure out what you could have done differently, and get back up and try again.

I’ve never been surfing, but I can only imagine the feeling of getting it just right…

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You decide

In light of the fact that I am running away into the sunsets of Hawaii and chasing my dreams of making a difference in the world, I have had many opinions expressed to me about my actions. The opinions that occur the most are as follows:

A) That is great! Go for it! More people should chase their dreams! – often followed with, “I wish I could live in Hawaii” – to which I always respond “why can’t you?”

And

B) How are you going to do that? Do you have a plan? Do you have a huge savings account? You don’t even know what you’re doing. You’re not being realistic.

Or something to that effect…

I just watched an AMAZING documentary called Happy.
In it is talks about the old phrase “Money brings happiness”. The documentary then goes on to explain that money only brings happiness when it provides the basic essentials – food, clothing and shelter. Once you’ve passed the basic essentials, it has been show time and time again, that continued and growing happiness does not coincide with your bank account.

For those who won’t chase their true dreams because they think that having a high paying job will bring them happiness instead – think again!

“We are put on this planet only once, and to limit ourselves to the familiar is a crime against our minds.” – Roger Ebert

The article The Four Engines of Life-Long Success by Philip Humbert goes over what really makes the successful, successful. Where you’re from, what you look like, how pretty you are, how tall you are, your race, age, gender, family history are only 10% of the equation. That leaves 90% completely up to you!

Click here to read Philip Humbert’s article

Interested in my journey to chase my dreams and make a difference: Click here

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Scaredy Cat! Ya, I said it

I could do my job asleep, backwards, and upside down. I am good at it. In fact, I am great at it. I get things done. I know where everything is, I know all the right answers and I love … Continue reading

How will you make a difference today?

Happy Monday! We should all strive to do good for others in every thought, word and action that we have. But we’re human so
that’s hard! Start small, do 1 good deed a day and then work your way up til it is habit to only do good for others. Whether you
start with a simple smile, a kind gesture or a donation to an awesome cause (hint, hint) remember when you have positive
intentions in all that you do, you can’t go wrong : )

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Watch this video for a FREE 7 day trip to Hawaii!

My husband and I are moving to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga and CrossFit facility. We are going out there not to chase worldly pleasures of paradise, but with a single focus of helping as many people as possible. Through helping people, helping them live a healthier lifestyle, giving them the gift of peace of mind through self defense, and volunteering both our mind and our physical strength to making the Island a more beautiful place, will we find our happiness. Our plan is to positively help and impact as many peoples lives as possible for the rest of our days on earth. We are going out there to abandon the rat race that society says is normal, in a quest to begin to truly live.

We have been fortunate enough to run a Krav Maga/CrossFit business for the last 3 years in Austin, TX and are ready to open our own now!

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