The “not so secret” Secret

I’ve been absent in my writing lately. Mostly because we’ve had so much going on. Moving to Hawaii to chase your dreams, is all fine, beautiful, amazing and dandy. But it sure is exhausting! Needless to say, it’s been a growing experience to say the least. Anyway, since I haven’t been around to write lately, I wanted to share a fellow blogger’s post. It is beautifully written! I mean, come on guys, this stuff just makes sense. Life is short. You’ve gotta do what you love. Be happy. Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s only cliche because year after year people have been saying the same things over and over. WAKE UP AND LISTEN! The answers are right in front of you. It’s like the everyone is wearing drunk goggles. If we all just calmed the waters and paid attention, the truth, the way and light to true happiness are glaringly obvious.

The Better Man Project ™

It’s not about catching up with the world, it’s about creating a life full of love and passion and having the world catch up with you. The times of having to mold ourselves into someone or something we aren’t are long gone – in fact, this may be one of the greatest lies of humanity. The belief that you have to fit in to lead a worthwhile life is a facade that shades your eyes from the truth. In many cases, it may feel that you have to be the cool person in order to gain the respect and appreciation of others, but let me tell you from personal experience – if you go out into the world, declare your purpose, and do something really ridiculously cool with your life, people will take notice and give you real respect. Respect for doing what you love and bring new ideas into…

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Have a little faith

I’ve been absent for a few days because life has just been one chaotic mess. If you don’t know, my husband and I are selling all of our things, leaving our jobs, friends and the city of Austin that we love dearly, to move to Hawaii to open a Krav Maga/CrossFit studio. Long story short  – Krav Maga and CrossFit are our passion and we can’t wait to change the world through through fitness and self-defense!


I have been absent because moving to an island in the middle of no where, trying to get a loan to start a business and figuring out how to ship our FIVE dogs over there, along with working my full time job still, has been very time consuming. And to top all of that – the Universe has been pushing me to my limits. Not a single thing has gone right in the last week. Nothing can just work the way its supposed to, it seems like everyone I interact with is incompetent in their jobs or someone didn’t pay attention to details, which leaves me completely screwed.

Needless to say, I am exhausted and have broken down many times over the last few days – all the while questioning why the universe has to make everything so freaking difficult! Why can’t anything work the way I want it to.

When I take a moment to step back and look at how things are working out –  I realize that the power of the mind really does work, I am still achieving what I have put out to the Universe, just not the way I thought I would.

The only time we are dissapointed in someone or something is when they do not meet our expectations.

If we accept people for who they are, and not who we want them to be, we would not have to go through the initial phase of dissapointment, only to later find out – they were perfect just the way they are – if we could have only accepted them that way in the first place.

And another thing…

Everything really does happen for a reason. Think back to a time something went wrong and you wondered, why you?

My boyfriend cheated on me two years ago, I was devastated. How could anyone treat someone that way?? But it also happened to be the first time I was single since I was 13 and I also just happened to be going on a cruise the following week. The same cruise that I met my husband on….

My point is, I have wasted a lot of energy being upset with the Universe this week (and this life), just to find out that it is working with me, not against me.

Keep your eyes on the prize, do everything with good intentions and hold tight to your faith, the Universe is listening…


The Opposite of What You Know is also True

A big struggle of mine at this time is learning to love people I don’t necessarily like. I wanted to share a quick excerpt from the book Buddhist Boot Camp. The next time you feel you need to prove you are right, or start to get frustrated that someone else doesn’t see things your way, take a moment to come back to this.

The Opposite of What You Know Is Also True

“You don’t have to agree with, only learn to personally live with, other people’s freedom of choice. This includes (but is not limited to) political views, religious beliefs, dietary restrictions, matters of the heart, career paths and mental afflictions.

Our opinions and beliefs tend to change depending on time, place and circumstance, and since we all experience life differently, there are multiple theories on what’s best, what’s moral, what’s right and what’s wrong.

It is important to remember that other people’s perspective on reality is as valid as your own. This is why the first principle of Buddhist Boot Camp is that the opposite if what you know is also true.

No matter how certain we are of our version of the truth, we must humbly accept the possibility that someone who believes the exact opposite could also be right (according to their time, place and circumstance). This is the key to forgiveness, patience and understanding.

That said, tolerance does not mean accepting what is harmful. Oftentimes the lesson we are to learn is when to say “no” the right time to walk away and when to remove ourselves from the very cause of anguish. After all, we are the ones who create the environment we live in.

While staying with different host families around the world over the last years, I noticed that people’s definition of everyday words like “comfortable” and “clean” we’re often very different then my own. The opposite of what I considered true proved to be just as true for others, which was very humbling.

If two people can have very different definitions of what “walking distance” means, imagine bigger words like “right” “wrong” “God” and “love”.

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly. – Richard Bach

Daily Reminders

On my desk at work I have three things that are there everyday as reminders:


A) a little baby Jesus – someone found it in one of our training rooms and left it on my desk with a note that said “I found Jesus”

B) a post it note that says:
1. Don’t talk about people who aren’t there
2. Love people I don’t like
3. Be patient

C) another post it note that says “Be Happy”

Sometimes we all need a daily reminder, or two….

Jesus and Buddha could have been BFF’s

 Too start, I was raised Christian since I was born. Recently I have been doing a lot of questioning and soul searching when it comes to religion. I started out on my journey not because I didn’t believe in the Bible or in Christianity, but because I wanted to be 100% sure why I was following it. I wanted to make sure that I fully understood what the religion says, what it tries to accomplish, and really what the entire purpose of it is.

With that being said, I quickly ran into a few snags right off of the bat. What does the Bible say about how everything began? Obviously starting in Genesis, God said let there be light and there was light, he created Adam and Eve, and all of the animals in the world, and birds in the sky. I do realize that the Old Testament is full of very elaborate and what seem to be far fetched stories, but I tend to look at them for the morals of the stories, rather than looking at them as legitimate historical happenings. I don’t really understand how according to the Bible the Earth can be 6,000 years old, when there is obvious clear scientific evidence, that it is indeed BILLIONS of years old. This is really where I began to raise an eyebrow so to speak and I began to dig deeper in my quest for answers and understanding.

In regards to the big hype on Gay marriage, the Bible actually takes a very definite stance against many things that are common occurrences in today’s society, but no one makes a big deal of them or cares to bring them up regularly. For instance Leviticus 19:27 says, “‘Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard.” Luke 16:18 talks about how we should not divorce, yet it remains legal. Leviticus 11:7-8 talks about how we should not consume pork, yet we have both had our fair share of bacon and BBQ I am sure. My point is, if all sins are equal in the eyes of the Lord (James 2:10) then why are we not as adamant to take a stand against these other things as well? I hope that makes sense. I know what the Bible says about same sex marriage, but according to the Bible, lying with another man is equally as bad as telling a lie of any sort.

So I began to get frustrated with the amount of hypocrisy that comes with the Christian faith. Unfortunately, many people are quick to judge others, when they themselves have infinite short comings as well, which are all equal. So I did some research on a few different faiths and practices and I stumbled across the teachings of Buddhism.

To start, Buddhism does not denounce any other religion in any way. It actually supports all religions. It is a belief system based wholly and entirely upon love and compassion for ALL beings. Pretty cool right? Should we not love and treat everyone with kindness on a day to day basis? Buddhism also teaches that all of the secrets to life and happiness are within us all. Jesus himself said in Luke 17:21, “The Kingdom of God is within.” All of this research led me to the teachings and sayings of the Dalai Lama. The Dalai Lama is a huge figure of the Buddhist faith. One of my favorite quotes from him is, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” I feel like that is the easiest way to look at our purpose in life. We are not put here for ourselves, we are put here to help each other. Only when we put others before ourselves 100% will we find true happiness. To me it all boils down to 1 thing no matter how you think of it or put it. We are all lit from within as if from a sacred source.

Remember, religion itself is a man made thing. Religion does not happen naturally. There have been rules made and stories told all by men who have spoken to God, who, we have been told by Jesus himself, lies within all of us. My entire focus in life these days is to do as much good as I possibly can. I want to help as many people as I possibly can. By making other people happy, will we find true happiness and peace for ourselves.